I am one who likes to hide. When things get that way it is
easier. Whether it be numbing my mind or sitting in my room or away from people
I have done it. I wouldn't say this is the best method to cope, but it
helps. I often think though wouldn't it be better that we live our
lives weathering the storm of our emotions rather than
running from them or hiding in my case? The
child who was molested,
yes it would be easier for the child
to avoid all men and not have relationships,
but wouldn't it be better for the
child to date and love a man in spite
of the abuse from childhood to
overcome it? Or how about the divorced
father, he could sit at home and choose
never to date again because he no
longer believes in love because his
wife left him, or he could go out and find
him a nicer woman to overcome that?
Or what about the person who caught
an std, they could sit home not date
and feel ashamed or they can go out and
date and find a person to love them
and overcome it? We all have cards so to
speak that we have been dealt. It
isn't easy handling the hand, and because your
hand isn't the best it can see
daunting to even want to continue to play the game.
We all wish we had a better hand. But
the truth is even while playing the game
while it probably won't be the smoothest
game it's better and more fun than
quitting the game. I will have to tell you
we are all more alive and more eager
than ever when we choose to weather a storm
rather than run or hide from
it. When we do this we are choosing to
fight ourselves and our irrational beliefs
and create a better life for ourselves.
Please don't run and do not hide but choose
to weather the storm. While
weathering the storm will you make mistakes? Probably
but that isn't the point. The point
is to learn something new about your life and
other people and to move
forward and change your beliefs thus changing your life.
What's so funny about this is that it is
the biggest reason why change occurs.
We change when we weather a storm. I
hear people wanting to change all the time.
And you know what they do? They go
out and get a new haircut, or they start
working out more, or they try and
find every external thing they can find in order
to change, when all they had to do was just
simply stop running and hiding and
just deal with what was in front of them
and choose to weather the storm. True
change occurs when we do. Choose even
though it may seem hard to weather the storm.Even when people treat you badly
and life seems tough and hard choose to
weather the storm. Even when you are all
alone you have to choose to weather
the storm. We HAVE TO DO THIS. I think
people think we have a choice in this.
I don't see a healthier choice. It is
actually the healthiest thing you can do. It is healthy because it is healthy
to confront what is bothering us or shaping us in ways we don't want. When you
do this you gain control over your life. This is important to live.
I promise you if we all chose to weather
the storm more psychologists wouldn't
be as busy, drug use would decrease,
people would be happier and life would
be better and truly worth it. It is
no great surprise that even self help book sells
will decrease. Human beings are most
unhappy because they don't choose to
weather the storm. Instead they seek
comfort from other things but true
comfort can never occur without us
weathering the storm. Comfort
without doing this will ultimately lead to
discomfort. Be smart, be courageous,
be happy to weather the storm and when you
do you will wonder what the
hesitation of weathering the storm
was all about. While weathering your storm
you may not be your most graceful, or the most tactful being. But
what you are
is someone who IS courageous! Remember this when weathering the
storm! You
are learning how to weather the storm, thus you won’t know or have
all of the answers or solutions. But once you have weathered the storm you
will. So what is your storm?
And when are you planning to weather it?
